Getting back to ME

After a serious of awkward conversations this past weekend, it came to my attention recently that this blog may have lost some of it's original focus.  I started this blog for myself, for me and to be about me.  But as I started getting into the blogging groove, I started sharing more, and started including others in my stories and pictures.  I forgot to consider that not everyone is as willing to put themselves out there as I am.  And so I need to take a step back....

You may recall this post from back in December, where I talked about how I struggle with my desire to be extremely honest and yet not overly offend or upset those around me.  It will be a constant struggle, I am sure, but it's good to go back to that every now and then to remind myself that this is about me, and no one else.

It makes me a little sad to realize that I need to be much more thoughtful in how I censor what I write, and in most instances it will mean omitting a great story, or a fun picture, or something else that I really wish I could have included.  I've even considered just quitting the blogging thing altogether, but I'm not sure that I could stay away for very long.  And then I thought about perhaps starting a completely new blog that I just kept totally personal, but I remembered that while I do write this for myself, if I knew that no one else was reading it, I'd quickly lose motivation.

Knowing that there are people out there who read this blog keep me motivated to continue writing in more ways that you can imagine.  Through this blog I've met some amazing new people, reconnected with others from my past, and have developed a way to continue to be connected with people currently in my life.  My network of "internet friends" continues to grow, and I absolutely love it!  A lot of people still can't imagine developing friendships online with people that you've never even met before, but in many ways, the lack of judgment and preconceived notions is freeing.  Sometimes - like now - I wish I could go back in time and target my blog to a more anonymous audience, instead of the family and friends that now make up the majority of my readership. 

But I can't, and I recognize.  So I recover from my one step backwards and prepare to move forward once again...

All of this is to say that you're going to be seeing a lot more (and hearing a lot more) of ME.  If you don't like reading about me, then.... well, you're going to be disappointed.  But I think in general this is going to be a move in the right direction, allowing me to focus on more thoughtful topics instead of the "what I did last weekend" sort of posts. (Don't worry, those aren't going away altogether, they'll just be framed differently.)

So, in many ways, this will be the "new" New Hartman blog - slightly modified and more personalized.  I hope you like it!

P.S.  From now on, my "dear husband" will be referred to as - somewhat appropriately - DH. 


Laura said...

It's always a journey figuring out what your blog will be and how others will fit in to it. I decided a long time ago that I would never post a photo of another kid without the parent's permission. My family knows that I blog and that if they are with me they will most likely end up in a picture sometime. I don't mention names when being negative in any way and I try to be as vague as possible. My rule for myself is that if it is going to hurt someone then I leave it out. It's just not worth it. But I have been blogging for five years and I don't think I will ever quit. :)

And speaking of internet friendships... Melissa and I have been internet friends for at least four years now. We've been through a lot together and email almost daily. We will meet someday... sooner than later. It's been a very meaningful friendship for me!

BeeKayRoot said...

I think blogging for yourself is a fabulous practice... When you blog for others, it tends to feel fake.

Some of my friends over at are always preaching the importance of keeping documentation of your life in written format; and that's what you're doing. You'll totally love having this documentation even 2, 5, or 10 years down the road.

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